I recently spent the week in Kansas City attending the American Bar Association’s Annual Conference for the Commission for Lawyers Assistance Programs (COLAP). Front and center was the ABA’s recently published paper—The Path to Lawyer Well Being—Practical Recommendations for Positive Change. It is the result of a year-long project of the ABA’s Attorney Well-Being Task … More Belonging
It is a false choice. One that we have perpetuated for generations—the idea that you cannot thrive in the legal profession without sacrificing, to some degree, your personal well-being and the time you spend with those you love. This false dichotomy has caused countless lawyers to feel as if they have no choice but to … More The False Choice
A few weeks ago I traveled to Mobile to address the lawyers in Alabama at their state bar’s Annual Convention. It was the first time I’d ever been asked to deliver an opening keynote at an annual bar meeting. And it was an honor to receive their invitation. At the time I didn’t know much … More Be The Change
A couple of weeks ago a group of 20 or so lawyers gathered in the upstairs dining room of the 82 Queen Restaurant (across the street from the Charleston County Courthouse). The group was there to share a meal and to listen to a presentation by Diana Deaver—a visual artist and an emotional health coach. … More It’s About The Creation of Community
Relationships really matter. Brene Brown reminds us that human beings are hard-wired for connection. It’s why we’re here. But relationships are also damned difficult. It seems to take a lot of practice (and no small number of failures) to have any hope of getting it right.
I was thrilled to be interviewed recently by Jeena Cho for The Resilient Lawyer podcast. In our conversation we explore some of some of those messages we tell ourselves as lawyers that end up getting us in trouble. And I talk about my own journey toward finding my way back to wholeness. Check it out … More Finding Your Way Back to Wholeness
I am not very good at fly fishing. Actually, I’m pretty bad at it. While I’ve had those days on the river with the perfect cast, the flawless drift and the fine hook set, and while I’ve experienced the sensation of netting a brook trout miles from civilization, and while I have no small number … More Fly Fishing Fail
A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of spending a few hours with the justices of our Supreme Court and Court of Appeals to talk about attorney well-being. It was a wonderful discussion. I left inspired by that group’s recognition that our emotional well-being—that ability to stop and be present to our lives—has … More The Barber and The Judge
Those of us in the legal world have a problem. We tend to spend a lot more time ruminating, questioning and scenario planning than actually living. Imagine that you are in a large lobby, and at the edge of the lobby are two doors. On one door is the word “Life.” On the other is … More An Occupational Hazard
If you live long enough you inevitably find yourself in a place where it feels as if all is lost. Life as you know it—or imagined it to be, or hoped it would be—is suddenly over.