A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of spending a few hours with the justices of our Supreme Court and Court of Appeals to talk about attorney well-being. It was a wonderful discussion. I left inspired by that group’s recognition that our emotional well-being—that ability to stop and be present to our lives—has … More The Barber and The Judge
Those of us in the legal world have a problem. We tend to spend a lot more time ruminating, questioning and scenario planning than actually living. Imagine that you are in a large lobby, and at the edge of the lobby are two doors. On one door is the word “Life.” On the other is … More An Occupational Hazard
If you live long enough you inevitably find yourself in a place where it feels as if all is lost. Life as you know it—or imagined it to be, or hoped it would be—is suddenly over.
The Stoic philosophers remind us that the universe doesn’t bend to our will. Yet it’s remarkable how angry and frustrated we can become when we subscribe to the irrational believe that it does.
Since feeling is first who pays any attention to the syntax of things will never wholly kiss you …and kisses are a far better fate than wisdom E.E. Cummings poetry can be a provocative way to begin an attorney wellness blog. But when it comes to talking about how most lawyers live their lives stuck in … More A Far Better Fate Than Wisdom
On February 1st I made a one line entry in my journal. “Here we go!” was all it said. But that one line contained two decades of soul searching, introspection and discernment. After practicing with the same firm for 29 years (and after toying with the idea of leaving for many of those years) I … More Here We Go!
For almost 2 years I have wanted to meet Jeena Cho. And two weeks ago I got the chance. Jeena delivered the keynote presentation for the Living Above the Bar CLE at the South Carolina Bar’s Annual Convention. I’ve written about Jeena’s work here before. She is a practicing attorney and the author of The … More An Idea Whose Time Has Come
If the rest of 2017 is anything like the first couple of weeks, this is going to be one wild and crazy ride. There are so many moving parts in my world right now that my life feels like one interminable game of Whack-A-Mole—taking care of one problem, only to have two more pop up behind it. It … More Just Do Today
On Friday a friend sent me a picture of a rose from her back yard. It was a pale yellow, with a brush of deep pink at the fringes of the petals. A perfect blossom.
“We are not here to be good. We are here to be whole.” —Carl Jung Like most lawyers, I am such a rule follower. And, like most lawyers, I spend a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to be “good.” In school I, like most of you, did my best to make good … More Following the Rules Is So Overrated