Relationships really matter. Brene Brown reminds us that human beings are hard-wired for connection. It’s why we’re here. But relationships are also damned difficult. It seems to take a lot of practice (and no small number of failures) to have any hope of getting it right.
I was thrilled to be interviewed recently by Jeena Cho for The Resilient Lawyer podcast. In our conversation we explore some of some of those messages we tell ourselves as lawyers that end up getting us in trouble. And I talk about my own journey toward finding my way back to wholeness. Check it out … More Finding Your Way Back to Wholeness
I am not very good at fly fishing. Actually, I’m pretty bad at it. While I’ve had those days on the river with the perfect cast, the flawless drift and the fine hook set, and while I’ve experienced the sensation of netting a brook trout miles from civilization, and while I have no small number … More Fly Fishing Fail
A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of spending a few hours with the justices of our Supreme Court and Court of Appeals to talk about attorney well-being. It was a wonderful discussion. I left inspired by that group’s recognition that our emotional well-being—that ability to stop and be present to our lives—has … More The Barber and The Judge
Those of us in the legal world have a problem. We tend to spend a lot more time ruminating, questioning and scenario planning than actually living. Imagine that you are in a large lobby, and at the edge of the lobby are two doors. On one door is the word “Life.” On the other is … More An Occupational Hazard
If you live long enough you inevitably find yourself in a place where it feels as if all is lost. Life as you know it—or imagined it to be, or hoped it would be—is suddenly over.
The Stoic philosophers remind us that the universe doesn’t bend to our will. Yet it’s remarkable how angry and frustrated we can become when we subscribe to the irrational believe that it does.
Since feeling is first who pays any attention to the syntax of things will never wholly kiss you …and kisses are a far better fate than wisdom E.E. Cummings poetry can be a provocative way to begin an attorney wellness blog. But when it comes to talking about how most lawyers live their lives stuck in … More A Far Better Fate Than Wisdom
On February 1st I made a one line entry in my journal. “Here we go!” was all it said. But that one line contained two decades of soul searching, introspection and discernment. After practicing with the same firm for 29 years (and after toying with the idea of leaving for many of those years) I … More Here We Go!
For almost 2 years I have wanted to meet Jeena Cho. And two weeks ago I got the chance. Jeena delivered the keynote presentation for the Living Above the Bar CLE at the South Carolina Bar’s Annual Convention. I’ve written about Jeena’s work here before. She is a practicing attorney and the author of The … More An Idea Whose Time Has Come